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ויביאו את המשכן אל משה את האהל ואת כל כליו קרסיו קרשיו בריחו ועמודיו ואדניו.
And they brought the mishkan to Moshe, the Tent, and all its furniture, its clasps, its boards, its bars, its pillars, and its sockets. (Shemos 39:33)

One of the great people who lived in Jerusalem was Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Baharan Levi. He was constantly doing chesed with people.
Once, his neighbor gave birth to a baby boy but was unable to nurse her child because of an illness that she had. She also did not have money to pay for another woman to nurse the child. Several days went by, and Rabbi Levy heard through his neighbor’s walls the constant crying of the hungry baby.
At that time, Rabbi Levy’s wife was nursing their own baby. He said to his wife, “Listen to me, my dear. G-d does not send a malady, before he sends the cure. Now that you are nursing, we can help our neighbor and her son. I will take your place and do all the chores that have to be done at home. You will eat more and rest a lot, so that you will have enough milk to feed our own child and also our neighbor’s child.” His wife, who was as eager as her husband to do chesed, readily agreed to her husband’s proposal. Whenever she heard her neighbor’s child crying, she would go next door and nurse him. This worked well during the day and the evenings, but at night the neighbor was too embarrassed to come in and disturb the rabbi and his wife. To solve that problem, Rabbi Levy changed his sleeping habits, and retired early every day. He would wake up and begin his Torah learning at the time when everyone else was jest retiring. In this way, since he was awake, he could easily hear the neighbor’s baby crying, and he will then awaken his sleeping wife.
Rabbi Levy understood the importance of doing chesed and spared no effort to complete these tasks. Marriage is based on performing chesed for one another and we must do our utmost to succeed in this area.


The king does not call his daughter “my wife” since the love that the person has for his wife is in a different sphere than the love he has for his blood relatives. The love between husband and wife is more than simple love; it is the merging of two human beings into one, as the verse says: “and they should become one flesh”.
When a person realizes that his spouse is an integral part of himself, then there can be no room for impatience, anger, or frustration toward one’s partner. A person does not become infuriated at himself when he makes a mistake, justification for anger when he or she errs. The verse in the Torah is hinting to us that it is not enough to live with our spouses side by side, but rather we must try to blend into one another emotionally and spiritually. Try thinking of your spouse as a part of yourself, instead of someone else.
The idea of being one is that both husband and wife have spiritual tasks that they need each other to complete and cannot be alone. Therefore, they are really one, since whatever is lacking in one can be found in the other, and together they make one spiritual whole.
To reach this level of love one must constantly be giving to the relationship. Always think of ways to make your spouse happy and to be thoughtful and kind to your spouse. A shining example of giving is seen in the story of Rabbi Levi and his wife. They worked together as two parts of a whole to do an outstanding chesed. When being one with your spouse becomes your constant concern, you will begin to realize that there is no one in the world like your spouse. The love you feel for your spouse should be as strong as the love you feel for yourself. This should form a model for our relationships with every other Jew as well, as it is written in the Torah “And you shall love your friend as you love yourself”. But we must begin by feeling that love toward our souses, and from there we can gradually build on that precedent until we learn to love everyone else.
Marriage is just like a spring. The more you give it, the more it gives back. In marriage too, the more you care for your spouse, the more you will receive.

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1) Hashem Loves Me.

2) Hashem is with me wherever I happen to be, and He is always ready to help me.

3) Hashem is stronger and smarter than everyone in the world, and He can find solutions to problems that seem impossible to solve.

4) Hashem knows what is best for me, even better than I myself know.

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6) Nobody can do anything to help or harm me, other than Hashem who has total control over everything.

7) He wants and seeks to do chessed, more than the most wonderful and kindhearted person I can imagine.

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